I’ve recently gotten out of a terrible relationship. Here’s what i’ve learned from it..
The narcissist doesn’t find “a better person”. They find someone who doesn’t know better. Once you catch on to their lies, cheating, manipulation and gaslighting, they’ll discard you and move on to the next one they’ve been grooming. OR, they’ll move on from you because they have used you all up and you are of no value to them anymore. And they move on very quickly too. Not even 2-3 weeks go by after a break up and they’re already in a relationship. And I guarantee you they were grooming this person while in the relationship. And that’s because they don’t like to be by themselves. They can’t. They don’t like the thought of being by themselves, they’re codependent upon other people. It’s their “narcissistic supply”. They need validation. They need to feel like the center of somebody’s world, because ultimately, everything is and will always be about them. They are love bombing the new one, being on their best behavior and getting them trapped. They are portraying themselves as husband (or wife) material, loving, supportive, etc and they are NOTHING like that. Nothing. They are literally the total opposite once they get you reeled in. They are highly arrogant, and believe they can do no wrong. They feel as if they’re above the law and is better than everyone else. They’re also jealous. They’ll never be happy about your achievements or anyone else’s except their own. Narcs pick certain people. They pick those who they know are caring, sweet, and nurturing. And trust me when I tell you, you have something they want. It might be money, it might be sex, or sometimes (if they live on their own) they’ll move you in quickly so you can help them pay their bills while they drain you of your money and your soul. And they’ll try to isolate you from friends and family in the long run. They won’t want you to go anywhere, they’ll want you to dress a certain way….and literally every single thing you do will become a problem. They’re NEVER satisfied, and will ALWAYS have a void in their life that will never be filled. They’re incapable of empathy, and understanding. The new person doesn’t know what kind of hell they’re getting into. They don’t know they’re getting ready to endure emotional abuse, mental abuse, and sometimes physical abuse. They’ll literally make you feel like you’re crazy and you’re not. They’ll even start arguments because it was a good day, and blame you for the argument they started, and tell everyone it’s you that likes to argue. And they will disrespect you, talk down to you and about you, and devalue you. They also PURPOSELY provoke you so you can REACT (reactive abuse), so you can look like the crazy one. Because what happens is, they provoke you by yelling at you, being disrespectful, calling you out of your name etc…..but when you react to the disrespect, now they’re the calm one, and you’re irate, making YOU look crazy. They know how to play the game. Trust me.. Narcissism is real. I could go on and on about narcissism. The best part is, now I know. And I can spot it when I see it. Went through it for years and the blindfold came off. Be careful out here. Thank you whoever takes the time to read this.. my inbox is always open and i will definitely be more active on this account. #narcissism #narcissismawareness
